10/26/25 TAMING THE TONGUE: James 3:1-12
An old man spread rumors about his younger neighbor stealing equipment. The young man was arrested for theft but was later released and cleared. After his release, the young man sued the older neighbor for slander and wrongful accusation. During the ensuing hearing, the old man said... they were just words; they didn’t hurt anybody. Before passing sentence, the judge said to the older man: before you leave this courtroom today, I want you to write down everything you said about this man on this piece of paper. After you write them, leave the courtroom and walk to the park across the street. Use these scissors to cut the paper into a dozen pieces and throw them up in the air. Then leave, go home, and come back tomorrow and hear my decision. Thinking this was some way to do “penance” in the judges’ eyes, the old man agreed. The next day, he came back into the courtroom ready to confirm that he had followed the judge's orders and, having learned his lesson, he would be exonerated. To his surprise, the judge said: before I pass sentence, I want you to go across the street to the park and pick up every piece of paper you threw away.... The old man said, your honor I can’t; the wind has blown them in a hundred different ways. The judge said, Sir, you are right: and so it is with your hurtful words: they have blown through the community for all to hear. They have injured this young man’s reputation and character, even though they were not true. And, once spoken, you cannot take them back. If you cannot say something good, do not say anything at all.
The tongue is powerful. It can lift up and it can tear down. It is difficult to tame. In fact, James says if anyone can control the tongue, then he is a PERFECT (fully mature) completed man. In James 3, James uses 6 dramatic, vivid word pictures to describe the power of the tongue and taming of the tongue.
Do you suffer from a case of athlete’s tongue? (it comes from sticking your foot in your mouth) Have you ever said something you wish you could have taken back? Has your tongue ever gotten you in trouble?
As we examine what James says about the tongue, I’m going to borrow a 3 point outline of Dr. Warren Wiersbe from this passage that discusses the POWER OF THE TONGUE
*POWER TO DIRECT (1-5a)
*POWER TO DESTROY (5b-8)
*POWER TO DELIGHT (9-12)
THE TONGUE HAS THE POWER TO DIRECT (1-5a)
In Verses 1-2 James is talking about teachers: this was a prestigious position: some speaking more than they know: sinning with words, not only condemning themselves, but leading others astray as well. But we all sin with words (what we speak); not just teachers: we all stumble REPEATEDLY; in fact, if you can handle the tongue (the hardest thing), you can handle the entire body; if you can control what you speak, you are perfect (fully mature), the FINISHED product.
Verse 3: ILLUSTRATION 1: A bit in a horse’s mouth: the typical roman war horse weighed 900 pounds, and a bit weighed less than a pound, yet the smaller directed the larger.
Verse 4: ILLUSTRATION 2: A rudder on a ship: even the largest ship that ever sailed,The Seawise Giant was 564,763 tons (a cargo ship); it’s rudder was 230 tons, or .04 of the weight (1/2 percent. The smaller directed the larger.
Verse 5a: in the same way, the tongue directs the body; it can move you toward success or failure; reveal you to be bitter or boastful or holy or humble. By the way, also the first hint of how to control the tongue: the bit is put in by someone apart from the horse; the rudder is directed by someone not a part of the boat.
IT COMES FROM HANDS THAT ARE WITHOUT WHAT IS MOVING.
THE TONGUE HAS THE POWER TO DESTROY (5B-8)
After establishing the tongue has the power to direct, James introduces 2 more word pictures that demonstrate how the tongue has the power to DESTROY.
Verse 5b: ILLUSTRATION 3: An out of control fire: it starts little and grows, destroying much: The Great Fire of 1910 burned 3 million acres, including parts of 10 national parks: 87 died (mostly Firefighters). One of the causes: embers/sparks from a passing locomotive in the region: small to large; OUR SPEECH CAN BE A FIRE THAT DESTROYS (Proverbs 16:27) A worthless man’s speech is like a scorching fire.
Words can burn you, hurt you.
Verse 6: Don’t miss this verse full of spiritual truth about the tongue. Evil words contribute to an evil world; one reason we have so much trouble in this world is because we have so much trouble with our tongues. Words can define and direct the entire course of our lives (yes/no/I do/I will not). The unredeemed/unrepentant tongue has a direct connection to hell itself: Gehenna: 11 by Jesus and here by James: the picture...... the point: uncontrolled speech comes from the influence of Satan himself:
WHAT DOES YOUR SPEECH SAY ABOUT WHO IS LEADING YOU AT THAT MOMENT?
Verse 7: ILLUSTRATION 4: we can tame animals: teach lions to jump through hoops,
Bears can learn to ride on bikes: America’s Got Talent winner, the dog Hurricane did unbelievable tricks.
Verse 8: here’s another hint: WE CAN’T DO IT BY OURSELVES: we cannot tame the tongue: again, that control must be outside of one’s self.
THE TONGUE HAS THE POWER TO DELIGHT (9-12)
Verse 9-10: We BLESS (eulogy: speak well) of God and curse those made in image of God. THIS SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE.
Verse 11: ILLUSTRATION #5: A BUBBLING FOUNTAIN. A flowing spring will not have both a sweet and a bitter taste, it can’t be both fresh and salt water. This is not natural: something is very wrong.
Verse 12: ILLUSTRATION 6: A FIG CANNOT GROW ON AN OLIVE VINE. That is not natural; that is, against THEIR NATURE. It is a call to consistency: reflect your nature, because the tongue reflects the heart: “what’s in the well will come up in the bucket”.
So, what do we do?
Start with 2 hints already covered
1. It must come from without (like the bit or the rudder)
2. We cannot do it ourselves (no man can tame his tongue alone.)
DO YOU WANT TO TAME YOUR TONGUE?
FIRST CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT YOU NEED HELP
Here are some biblical descriptors of the tongue:
wicked-deceitful-filthy-blasphemous-contentious
TAKE THIS TEST: have any of these come from your mouth?
GOSSIP: Proverbs 16:28: A contrary man spreads
conflict, and a gossip separates friends.
COMPLAINING: James 5:9: Brothers, do not complain
about one another, so that you will not be judged.
DISHONESTY: Colossians 3:9: Do not lie to one another,
since you have put off the old man with his practices.
CONFESS YOUR NEED FOR HELP TO GOD AND ASK
*Psalm 141:3: LORD, SET A GUARD FOR MY MOUTH,
KEEP WATCH AT THE DOOR OF MY LIPS.
PRAY BEFORE YOU SPEAK
CONCENTRATE ON HIS WAY AND HIS WORDS
A. HIS WAY
*Philippians 4:8: Finally brothers, whatever is true,
whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever
is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable,
if there is any moral excellence, and if there is any
praise, THINK ON THESE THINGS
T.H.I.N.K before you speak: ARE YOUR WORDS:
True Helpful Inspiring Necessary Kind
So, let us close with Ephesians 4:29 and commit our speaking
this week to God..... No rotten talk should come from your
mouth, but only what is good for the building up of someone
in need in order to GIVE GRACE TO THOSE WHO HEAR
MAY THOSE WHO HEAR MY WORDS THIS WEEK RECEIVE GRACE